Are You Afraid That If He Knows The Real You, He’ll Run?

by Carol Allen

Almost everyone has the “what the heck is wrong with me” voice, but yours seems to be extra loud.

Years of being told you’re “too emotional” or “too intense,” too this or too that—or being ghosted when you thought something special was happening—have made you think that maybe it’s better if you hold back a little. Retreat. Not reveal your true colors. Too dangerous.

Instead, you’ve settled for being beige.

You’ve learned to keep quiet even though your insides are burning up.

You’ve learned to not ask for anything, because you’ve been told you ask for too much.

You pretend to be blind to glaring red flags.

A guy is paying attention to you and wants to be with you? DANGER, DANGER! Let’s not make any waves here and show that you have wants and needs, for fear he’ll jump ship.

You want him to call you when he says he will or show up for plans? Best let it go when he goes MIA for a whole weekend and then reappears on Monday night—you’re lucky there’s a live one on your doorstep.

And you apologize. A lot.

Don’t Mind Little Old Me…

“I don’t mean to be a pain, but…”

“Please don’t take this the wrong way…”

“I’m so sorry, I was just…”

“Oh, don’t worry, it’s really not a big deal…”

Ever caught yourself apologizing for something you’ve said or are about to say?

That’s classic for the soulfully sensitive woman.

“Don’t mind me” is your unofficial credo.

You marvel at the confident (ahem, bitchy) women who seem to be able to say their piece without fear of repercussion.

You?

Rehearse things over and over in your head, and then you still kick yourself after you say it.

This has to stop!

Until YOU Embrace Yourself, Nobody Else Will

Here’s my non-astrological prediction for you if you carry on hiding or apologizing for who you are:

1. You’ll wind up in a long-term relationship with a man but be a shell of yourself—confused, depressed, and in despair.
2. You’ll become a the queen of “woulda, coulda, shouldas”—stuck in the past and full of regret, with little hope for the future.

No!

You need to remember that men can come and go, but the longest and most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.

And here’s the part I reeeaallly want you to get:

That self you are working SO hard to hide is actually pretty awesome!

I know, I know. This is NOT what you’ve been told. At least that’s how it appears on the surface. I’m willing to bet you can come up with a number of ways you’re appreciated for ALL you are.

Think about your family, friends, colleagues…your accomplishments.

Where have you kicked some serious butt? How have you shined? When have you overcome obstacles that at one time seemed impossible?

I’m willing to bet that in every one of those instances, it was your soulful sensitivity that gave you the edge.

Which is why you must do yourself and all of us a favor by learning how to make the most of it!

My program Love and The Soulfully Sensitive Woman is going to be a huge game changer for you if you’ve become accustomed to hiding, shrinking, avoiding and apologizing your way through relationships.

First and foremost, I’m going to tell you exactly why the world—and especially men—need your particular gifts so that you drop the old “there’s something not right with me” story and step into your glory.

You’ll hear about all the ways your sensitive nature is really a HUGE plus when it comes to relationships of all kinds (especially romantic ones!) This will totally skyrocket your self-appreciation and self-esteem as soon as you hear it.

Next, I’m going to give you specific, empowering strategies for dealing with disappointment and heartbreak. No more apologizing or second-guessing yourself because a relationship has crashed and burned. After you hear what I have to say, you’ll feel a LOT more positive about the future of your love life.

I’m going to teach you how to get over the fear of asking for what you need and want—and I’ll show you specific ways to communicate even the trickiest topics. No more shrinking or putting up with something that bothers you. You’ll know how to set better boundaries and do it without cringing or apologizing.

You’ll get tips on specific words to use or to avoid using in order to feel heard and revered by a man. No more stuffing down your anger and resentment because he doesn’t “get it”. He’ll hear you and he’ll want to make you happy—really!

Not sure how much of your sensitivity to reveal to a new man? We’ll cover that, too. Sneak peek—you don’t want to give it ALL away too soon (and I’m not just talking about in the bedroom).

There’s no need to hide the real you. You want to let the real you shine! That’s what’s really going to improve your relationships and bring you the kind of love you desire.

Finally, you’ll know how to show up more confidently in the world so that you attract better quality men—the ones who actually want to hear everything you’ve been dying to say:

The longest relationship you’ll EVER have is with yourself.

Soulfully Yours,

P.S. My friend and coach Rhonda Britten teaches something I love:

No matter who you are, or what you do, pretty much all of us have the same formula in relationships:

1/3 of people will like you. 1/3 won’t. The other 1/3 will be neutral.

So don’t knock yourself out to please anyone ever again—focus on finding YOUR PEOPLE and forget about everyone else… Get Your Self Esteem Super Boost