by Evan Marc Katz
Do the guys you meet pale in comparison to your ex?
You just don’t meet anyone who makes you feel the way he did. Maybe there’s even a guy who’s totally crazy about you, but you just can’t feel it for HIM.
Mentally and emotionally, you’re still stuck on your ex way more than you should be.
The euphoria you experienced with your ex isn’t present with your current boyfriend.
You think about your ex often. You wonder what he’s doing and whether he’s in love with someone else. Or is he still single and thinking about you, too?
Or maybe you’ve remained friends, and you see him on a regular basis.
When he broke up with you, you were heartbroken. You didn’t understand why he wasn’t “feeling it” for you the way you were feeling it for him.
You wish you could talk to him again. You wish you could understand what went wrong and why he left.
And sometimes you may ask yourself, “How can I get him back?”
The Real Problem Here: You’re Asking The Wrong Question
If you’re asking yourself how you can get your ex to love you and want you again, you’re asking the wrong question.
Ask yourself this question instead:
Should my future husband love me unconditionally?
Shouldn’t this be the ONE precondition for any man you’re going to spend the rest of your life with?
Unfortunately, many women don’t automatically see things this way. They believe (the way you do, maybe) that all his other qualities are more important…
How he looks. How he made you laugh. How much money he makes. How incredibly smart and witty he is. How he made you feel.
Especially how he made you feel.
Ok, so at one point he made you feel giddy, special, alive.
But how does he make you feel NOW? Are you feeling special? Do you feel loved and accepted? Or do you feel like crap because when he broke up with you, you fell into a depression and have felt insecure about yourself ever since?
Here’s Your Dating Wake-Up Call: Now Pay Close Attention
Every single day, I get calls from women wanting to talk about some guy. They want to know, why did he disappear? What could they have done to make him stay? How can they get him back?
Instead of making the effort to connect with a man they deserve, they are giving a man who couldn’t love them unconditionally way too much time and energy.
They’re calling me for advice, they’re asking their girlfriends for feedback, they’re lying awake at night going over old conversations.
If you’re doing this too, you’re not doing yourself any favors. In fact, you’re making a very common mistake:
You’re holding on to the illusion that the man who dumped you or disappeared was “The One” because of the way he made you feel in the past.
More importantly, you’re letting this illusion get in the way of finding and connecting with the one man who really CAN love you unconditionally.
You’re ignoring the fact that there are plenty of good men who aren’t selfish, cheaters, and jerks. Like you, they’re hoping to find one person to love and adore for the rest of their lives.
That’s why it’s so important that you get real about your past relationships, and stop sabotaging your own love life by mistaking an idealized fantasy for true love.
How To Get Over Him And Create Healthier, Happier Patterns In Love
If you want to empower yourself and have the love life you crave, you have to stop trying to fix relationships with broken men who treat you like crap, and start making healthier decisions. Soon, you will attract that one special man who will never leave.
That’s where I come in. I’ve spent 15 years as a dating and relationship coach, and helped thousands of women find love (even after years…or decades…of heartbreak and frustration).
I’ve partnered with Flourish to help women like you learn the truth about men, so you can stop making the same mistakes that sabotage your love life. And you can get more of my advice…for FREE…when you subscribe to our dating and relationship newsletter.
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- A 6-step action plan for what to do when you can’t seem to break yourself of the illusion that your ex was The One
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I know how hard it can be to completely let go of someone you used to love. I had my own share of heartbreak when I was single. There were times when I didn’t want to accept that the woman I wanted wasn’t right for me.
But once I did let go and move on, I was able to meet and be emotionally available to a woman who would become the real love of my life (my wife).
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Warmest wishes and much love,
Your friend,
