by Carol Allen
Have you ever scratched your head wondering why your girlfriends seem to get over guys so much easier than you do?
Or why, when you give SO much in relationships, you come up empty?
When you’ve fallen in love, do you feel a kind of spiritual fusion with the man—to the point that when you’re intimate, time stands still and you don’t know where you end and he begins?
If you’re out on a date, do you care more than everyone else about things like how loud the music is, whether you sit on the bench or a regular chair, and how close you are to the kitchen?
You have lots of friends, and you do well in practically every area of your life, but when it comes to dating and relationships, you at times feel like a fish out of water gasping for air.
You get VERY attached and very quickly, and yet you can go YEARS between relationships.
With you, it’s all or nothing.
And it’s actually pretty exhausting for you. Often, you want people to throw you a life raft or something, especially if you’ve been flung into the intrepid waters of online dating or app swiping, or any other modern marvel.
Were you born too late?
Are you an alien?
Just plain weird?
Actually…
You’re Soulfully Sensitive, And That’s Pretty Darn Special
When you’re a soulfully sensitive woman, you feel emotions to a much higher degree.
This isn’t just some woo-woo thing, it’s hard science.
Psychologists and researchers have found an actual genetic trait for heightened sensitivity—and those born with it are called Highly Sensitive People (HSP).
I call it soulfully sensitive, because I believe it’s a much more accurate representation of everything you feel, and everything you have to offer.
If you’re soulfully sensitive, you’re intense. And sure, while this may cause you to feel heartbreak at a deeper level, on the flipside it also means you fall in love much more deeply, too.
And, here’s the kicker: the lucky dudes who get to be with you enjoy an unparalleled, profound experience with you.
But as you’ve probably painfully learned: some guys can’t take the heat. Your high hopes have often been followed by crushing lows.
You work SO hard at getting love right, and yet things rarely turn out your way. Men don’t seem to appreciate everything you are, despite all your giving. Meanwhile, other people seem to get over things so much easier than you do. It’s REALLY hard for you to “move on”—whether it’s after a little fight or a breakup.
You’ve started to wonder whether your feelings are too much. And because of this, you arrive at a scary conclusion:
You Believe That YOU’RE Too Much To Have The Love You Want
If you think your emotions are too hot to handle, and that a guy will inevitably run when he discovers the truth about you, something unfortunate happens:
You believe you’re not worthy of the love you crave.
This highly erroneous belief sends out a screaming vibe that says: “Hey, I don’t feel good about myself, so I’m not going to ask for too much over here. I’ll take whatever I can get.”
And you can guess what happens next…
You attract men who will never be able to adore you. If they pay just a teeny amount of attention to you, you grab on to it like it’s a life preserver in the middle of the ocean.
If they start coming on strong and then pull back, you panic and work really hard to keep them.
You want to have “talks” about what went wrong…
You text them romantic sentiments and anxiously monitor your phone for a reply all day…
You come alive after any smidgen of attention…
And when nothing works, and they’re gone, you experience a grief so devastating, people would think you’d known the guy for decades.
Yet this can happen to you after only a few dates!
The whole process is so draining and exhausting, that you end up checking out of dating altogether, sometimes for months or years.
This Is When So Many Women Come To Me For Help
As a Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, I’ve noticed an interesting phenomenon:
The majority of the women coming to me for advice had the gene for HSP. It also shows up in their astrological chart.
These women tend to devour self-help books and do a lot of the “inner work” to have a happy love life—affirmations, retreats, visualization, you name it. They care deeply about relationships, and they’re willing to put in the effort.
So, if you’re reading this and have a lot of personal growth under your belt, chances are you’re also a soulfully sensitive woman.
And, lucky for you, I’ve made it my mission over the past few years to help women exactly like you.
First, I want to reassure you that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Sensitive people like you are responsible for the poetry, art, music, and spiritual and political movements that have added so much richness and meaning to life and have made this planet anything but dull.
However, when it comes to dating, being soulfully sensitive can either be a curse or a blessing—depending on how you use it!
The big question is: how do you balance your sensitivity—and make the most of it—without pushing away the very love you want?
How To Make Your Sensitivity Work FOR You And Have The Romance You Were Born For
Did you know that resisting something only makes it stronger?
If you’re on a diet and not allowed to have chocolate cake, guess what you’ll be craving ALL the time?
Likewise, wishing away your sensitivity will only work against you.
I help women EMBRACE their highly sensitive natures and make it their secret weapon in creating euphoric, soul-satisfying romance with men who ADORE them.
The truth is you ARE wired differently, and that just means you need to do things differently.
Regular dating and relationship advice simply does not apply to you—and it will actually make you nuts because it’s not geared toward the way you experience life and respond to men.
That’s why I’m super excited to tell you about my program Love and The Soulfully Sensitive Woman, because you’ll learn tools, techniques, and mindset shifts that I’ve designed specifically for you.
In Module 2, you’ll learn about the most important to do to take care of yourself after a breakup. This is not the typical “cookie-cutter” advice many coaches give to clients who are still processing heartbreak.
In Module 3, you’ll learn a strategy for handling rejection after you realize that a guy you like just isn’t into you. Instead of ruminating on what you did wrong or could have done better (as soulfully sensitive women are known to do), you’ll use this strategy to feel accepted and wanted.
And in Module 6, you’ll learn how to overcome the 2 biggest challenges that soulfully sensitive women have when it comes to creating the kind of love life they desire, and the 6 action steps to take to increase your motivation to start over when you’ve been disappointed.
From meeting men and getting through those first few dates to handling sex and expressing your needs, to healing from heartbreak in a positive way that honors your sensitive nature, you’ll finally have the guidance you require to get off the romance roller coaster and into the rocking relationship you’ve been missing all these years.
When women hear this advice, they often let out a huge sigh of relief or even weep, because finally someone understands. Instead of trying to fit yourself into cookie-cutter dating advice that seems to work for everyone but you, you’ll learn how to honor your sensitivity and not be on pins and needles worried about what a guy will or won’t do.
And instead of shutting your mouth to keep the peace with your man, you’ll know how to express exactly what you need and have him LOVE you even more for it:
Start Watching NowI had so much fun recording this program, and I can’t wait for you to let your soulful, sensitive, spectacular self come out to play!
Soulfully Yours,
P.S. Do you over-romanticize your ex-boyfriends? When you’re soulfully sensitive, it can be very tempting to stay stuck dreaming about “what ifs” from the past—and this is really a clever tactic in disguise keeping you from getting back out there. In my program Love and The Soulfully Sensitive Woman, I’ll help you move past the past and feel confident about opening your beautiful big heart again:
How To Move On, The Sensitive Way