The Anatomy Lesson You Never Knew You Needed

by Felice Dunas

Sex Ed. The giggle-inducing, anxiety-ridden practice of a teacher (usually phys ed) demonstrating how to put a condom on a banana.

It’s designed to teach students how to prevent pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and diseases, and better their sexual and reproductive health.

Cool.

But there’s a critical component to sex ed that’s missing - and it’s killing your sex life.

Because sex ed turns what can be a beautiful, confidence-inducing activity into an awkward, clinical demonstration of how babies are made.

The reality is there’s so much more to sex and sexuality and basic anatomy than is taught. Women’s bodies are more complex than the fallopian tubes and uterus. They’re more than a diagram in a classroom.

And by focusing only on the reproductive functions of a woman’s body… sex ed begins a narrative that forms and shapes throughout your entire life.

That your sexual pleasure is secondary to your reproductive ability.

That your anatomy doesn’t matter.

That everyone is the same and your sexuality is limited to the organs inside your body - instead of the rest of the incredibly sensitive, pleasurable, and important parts of your anatomy.

But the most shocking thing about sex ed is that this clinical and child-bearing focus is limited ONLY to the education given in regard to the female anatomy.

Boys are taught about nocturnal emissions. They’re taught how sex feels good. They’re taught about erections and how the penis is designed to ejaculate.

Girls are taught that the vagina is the birth canal.

And this has shaped your view of sex for your entire life.

It’s starting the story that your pleasure is secondary. That your pleasure matters less than your reproductive ability. That sexual pleasure doesn’t matter as much for a woman.

This continues throughout our lives, with our sexual experiences. Because our early experiences - whether they’re good or bad! - set our expectations for what it’s like to feel good. If we’re fumbling around and it “feels nice,” we might think that’s all there is to it.

When we rely on our partner to give us pleasure (instead of being able to direct our pleasure)… we’re setting ourselves up to not only be disappointed… but we’ll be disappointed without ever even realizing it.

If we don’t know any better… how will we ever know any better?

And a lack of knowledge about your body leads to sexual repression.

Because when you don’t know your body, you don’t know what makes it feel good. And when you don’t know how to feel good, you’re not able to communicate with your partner OR please yourself.

When you don’t know how to feel good - when you don’t know how your body can experience pleasure - you lose a vital part of yourself: the connection to your feminine power.

You might think that as we get older, we have access to better information… but the truth is, there isn’t a reliable source of correct, non-judgemental and pleasure-focused information designed for women.

Porn is is highly inaccurate and teaches us things that are not true. TV and movies - even ones that claim to be created for females - also don’t give us information about how to take charge of our own pleasure.

And if you’ve ever tried to talk to your mom or other trusted female family member about sex… you know it’s not only awkward and embarrassing… but they’re plagued by the same lack of information as you! The same goes for your friends, online forums…

There is simply no good source of education focused on improving women’s sexuality.

Sexual repression through lack of information is real, it’s global, and it’s making you feel less desirable and less confident every single day.

So it’s time to change this with the real woman’s guide to sex.

We’re going to start with the clitoris.

The common joke is that men don’t know where the clitoris is. But the harsh reality is that a lot of women don’t know everything there is to know about the clitoris, either.

Your clitoral head is a bundle of nerves located above the vaginal opening. It’s the most sensitive pleasure zone in your body.

There are more than 8,000 nerve endings in the tip of your clitoris alone - more than 4x than the head of a penis. They come in a variety of colors and sizes (because just like every vagina looks different, your clitoris is unique to you, too.)

And it is the ONLY body part whose sole purpose is pleasure.

But we’ve been trained and taught that “men can’t find it” and so our expectations about how powerful an organ it really is… are sorely lacking.

The truth of the matter is that we don’t understand our OWN bodies - so we certainly can’t expect a partner to!

And while you can certainly find out through experimenting, finding out what feels good…

It’s hard to do when you don’t have someone who knows better showing you the way.

Which means we end up experiencing pleasure by accident - when we happen to be with a partner who does something right and we’re aware enough of it to make it happen on purpose in the future.

And being left with the choice of “fumbling through it” or “landing a great bed partner”… is it any wonder we’re left in the dark about how we work?!

No matter how old you are or how your relationship with your anatomy is, the lessons we’re given about sex, our body’s purpose, and our sexuality make it so we don’t talk about it.

Which means we don’t understand ourselves. We don’t know what makes us tick, what makes us feel good, what turns us off…

And we’re relegated to a life of bad or mediocre sex because we just don’t know any better.

We look back on our early experiences - some good, some probably not - and let that shape the rest of our lives.

And if you’re living that way… you’re doing yourself a disservice.

Because knowing your body (yes, including your clitoris) is one of the most basic foundations of a great sex life you can have.

It’s these foundations that are missing from our education - both in school and as adults. It’s these foundations that lead to 70% of women being dissatisfied with the quality of their sex lives.

It’s these foundations that keep us in a state of sexual repression and hold us back from accessing our full power as women.

And it’s these foundations that I’m committed to fixing.

Because when you have the right foundation - you CAN build a good sex life. You CAN feel sexually fulfilled and access all the benefits that come with it:

• Better partner selection (because finding someone to fulfill your needs is easier when you know what those needs are in the first place)…
• More self confidence (because when we know how to make our bodies feel good, we feel more worthy even outside the bedroom)…
• In-touch with your femininity (so you can reconcile who you are with who you think you should be)…
• Improve how others interact with you (because when you know what you want, you begin to refuse to settle for less)…
• Increased standards for interaction (because you now know you’re worth respect, time, and effort)…

I’ve spent the last 3 decades of my life traveling the world to work with thousands upon thousands of women and couples in over 60 countries on 6 continents - so I can help them have better sex, improve their relationships, and get in touch with their sexuality.

I’ve distilled my 30+ years of experience helping women improve their sex lives and sexuality into the only program designed specifically to help YOU have the knowledge and empowerment to take charge of your own pleasure.

I’ll not only give you the physical information you need - including more in-depth information about your anatomy and how it contributes to your pleasure - but also the psychological and emotional encouragement, empowerment and information to overcome the barriers that are holding you back.

It’s called The Goddess of Pleasure, and it’s thoughtfully created to help you discover and explore your own sexuality.

From the physical knowledge you need, to the skills that you’ll enjoy practicing… the goal is to help you build your sexual self-esteem so you step into the sexual being you are.

I’ll show you:

• How your body remembers your past (even when you don’t) and exactly how it’s affecting your every experience now… because when you understand where obstacles come from, you’re more able to overcome them…
• The physical introduction you never had to your anatomy - from your vulva to your vagina (and all the little places in between)… INCLUDING what the function of each part of your genitals is for and how it can help you have consistently better sex…
• A full breakdown of the health benefits of sex and how you can increase those benefits with every single sexual encounter (whether or not you have a partner)…
• How attraction is both evolutionary and determined by your life experiences so you can consciously hold your partners to a higher standard…
• The difference between your sex life and your sexuality… and how one influences the other so drastically that it’s impossible not to connect the two…
• My must-watch Thrusting Tutorial that will show you how different movements affect the nerves in your vagina… so you have almost a step-by-step tutorial to heighten your pleasure and direct your partner (or use yourself) to feel good every time…
• The process of seduction and how to become an active participant in your own seduction… which heightens the entire experience AND allows you to retain control over your sexual satisfaction…
• The science behind the orgasm so it’s no longer a magical, mystical thing but a process that you can discover and repeat, reliably, every single time… because The Elusive O is a thing of the past…
• The essential part to your sexual self-care that you might be avoiding - and how you can make sure you’re always healthy, sexually and physically…
• And much, much more.

By the time you have finished the videos and guides that I’ve prepared for you, you will be empowered to not only understand your body… but begin a journey of exploration that will continue to bring you joy, pleasure and confidence for the rest of your life.

If I had this kind of information when I was younger my whole life would have been different.

I’ve done the work – the studying, the advanced degrees, the intense educational journey to understand human sexuality at its core – which is what has allowed me to know what I know right now.

I’ve invested the time and energy into learning from multiple disciplines – from ancient Eastern medicine (my specialty) to modern-day studies and western advancements – so you don’t have to.

And I’ve spent countless hours with women and couples around the world, helping them understand their sexual natures, overcome challenges and create great sex live.

So you don’t have to take the long road to be where I am. I want you to empower yourself with the knowledge of your body so you can take back control of your entire self.

I’m so excited to help you on this journey to self-discovery.

Warmly,

P.S. Look, it’s not your fault that you don’t have all the answers about your body. There’s a lot about women’s bodies that is under researched and misunderstood. There’s a lot about our hormones and our anatomy and our pain tolerance (higher than most think!)… that is simply swept under the rug, not prioritized, and not talked about.

We don’t have to do this anymore! We CAN, as women, work together to make sure that every single one of us is living her best life. And that includes sex.

If you take nothing else from this article, know this: your body was specifically and specially designed for pleasure. You have an organ that does just that.

Now it’s up to you to decide what you’ll do with that information. Will you leave it there, walk away, and never think of it again?

Or will you use this opportunity to find your power as a woman and do what you need to do to use it for sex that feels really, really good?

The decision is yours. I hope you’ll join me.