A quick Google search on how to have better sex will give you approximately 18 million articles on how to please him in bed.
The same is true in Cosmo and other women’s magazines.
Sex advice is centered around his pleasure.
But when you stop thinking of sex as a performance and start thinking of it as an activity between two people who want to experience pleasure together…
It’s time to turn the tables and think about your satisfaction.
It’s time to put yourself first and have him cater to your needs.
And while the commonly accepted fact is that women are impossible to please and that men just can’t seem to find their way around even with a map…
This doesn’t have to be true for you.
You don’t have to settle for mediocre sex and second-place finishes.
It just takes one simple thing and you can teach your partner to be the best lover you’ve ever had.
You have to know what feels good, tell him what to do, and expect that it will be pleasurable.
I know, I said it was simple. And it is, even if you don’t believe me yet.
But THIS is the one thing that seems to stand in the way for so many women.
Know what you want
Communicate it
Expect that it’ll work
Three steps, but they represent a lot of blocks that many of us have had at some point in our lives.
Knowing your body and how it works is the foundation of sexual pleasure.
Otherwise, you’re just hoping he’ll luck into the right move… and depending on how your sex life is currently going, you could be waiting a while.
As women, we’re not really conditioned to explore our bodies. Sex ed is mainly revolving around reproduction instead of how women experience pleasure, masturbation is definitely not something that’s encouraged, and the media tends to portray women as accessories for male pleasure and not as the incredible and pleasure-deserving beings that we are.
Not exactly a recipe for empowered female sexuality.
But the truth is, making the effort to know your body - from your anatomy to how your body works and responds to certain stimulus - is the basis for having good sex.
How can you have good sex if you don’t know what good sex feels like?
How can you have good sex if you don’t know what’s happening down there?
How can you have good sex if you’re so disconnected from yourself that you don’t even understand how you work?
The harsh reality is that you can’t.
Telling your partner what to do can be scary for some women. They don’t know what words to use, they might feel a bit shy about saying it out loud, or they might be self-conscious about seeming demanding.
And if you’re not comfortable saying it out loud… how are you supposed to tell him what to do?
Now, I’m not talking about “dirty talk,” although that certainly has its place in relationships where both partners enjoy it.
But I’m talking about factual, real conversation about what’s working for you and what’s not.
This requires a few things -
You know what’s working for you (see Step #1)…
You’re comfortable in your relationship to have these conversations and
You know what to say and have the words to describe it.
The truth is, we don’t know what we don’t know. And sometimes, we just don’t know what to say to explain how or what he can do to bring us pleasure.
And that’s okay. This is not something we’re taught.
It is, however, something we can learn.
Your partner wants you to talk to him. Studies have shown that men are happier with both their relationships and their sex lives when there’s open sexual communication.
And while it may be uncomfortable navigating at first… you’ll find it will quickly pay off.
But the most difficult thing for many women to grasp is
As women, we’ve been so conditioned to kind of take what we can get. That men are fumbling, lost without a clue, can’t find the clitoris with a map…
But that’s not being fair - to him OR you.
If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s time to trust that your partner does prioritize your sexual satisfaction. Research shows that he does.
Even more than that, though… it’s time for YOU to prioritize your sexual satisfaction.
It’s time for YOU to accept that you are a sexual being - with no judgement, no shame, no guilt - and that you are deserving of pleasure.
This is the part that’s been difficult for my clients to wrap their minds around. That pleasure is something we inherently deserve, not something that’s gifted to us out of the goodness of someone else’s heart.
But it’s doable. You can do it.
I’ve spent nearly 40 years traveling the world and working with women and couples on improving their sexuality and their sex lives.
And at the heart of all of this work are the 3 steps I just gave you.
And now I’ve put all that knowledge - all those skills and understanding - into the most important program I’ve created out of my life’s work.
The Goddess of Pleasure is a self-study program with carefully and thoughtfully compiled lessons on everything from the physical knowledge you need to the emotional barriers to overcome to the skills you’ll enjoy learning and practicing to awaken your sexuality and harness the pleasure you deserve.
Get The Skills You NeedI’ll show you:
But, perhaps most importantly…
I’ll help you find the confidence you need to show him how to please you.
And trust me - he will be the best lover you’ve ever had.
Warmly,
P.S. This program will cover the 4 big barriers to having great sex (while walking you through the 3 steps to turning him into an amazing lover):
And if you want to be able to communicate your sexual needs to your partner and reap all the benefits of an incredible sex life…
You’ve got to make sure all four of these barriers are out of the way.
That’s what this program is designed to do for you.
All you have to do is say yes.
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